Monday 25 January 2016

Trust Account Information

Today the trust account opening was finalized at Bank of Montreal.  If you had previously given a cheque to Isaac’s trust fund, it has been cashed today.  For those of you who have been asking how to make a contributionyou can now make a deposit at any local Bank of Montreal branch.  You will need to provide the account details which are as follows

Account Name:                 The Isaac William Scott Trust
Transit:                        0003
Account:                     8972-665
 Please let me know if you have any questions or problems.
Thank you so much for supporting our family in this way.  
Love Karen and Isaac

Friday 22 January 2016

I Can Only Imagine.

It has been over 2 weeks since I lay next to Rob in his hospital bed while he took his last breath but it often feels like it has been much longer than that.  The pain that comes with missing Rob and just wanting to be with him again is too overwhelming to describe.  On the other hand thinking of him pain free and happy in heaven is such a comfort.  Isaac and I talk most days about what Daddy is doing in heaven.  The other day Isaac said he doesn't like talking about heaven because he doesn't know what it looks like.  We had a good conversation about this and Isaac has now decided that heaven is a giant jungle gym and his Daddy is playing on it all the time and is super good at it.  He also thinks that Daddy is hanging out with Isaac from the bible and maybe even Abraham too!  It has been good for both of us to talk about heaven and to remember that Rob is in a much better place.  Even though we miss him like crazy we know he is waiting for us in heaven and we will see him again some day.  This morning in my devotions I was lead to the verse from Psalm 147:3 which says, "He heals the brokenhearted and bandages their wounds."  One day at a time, and some days it is minute by minute but God will carry us through this.  It is our weaknesses that bring us closer to Jesus and without Him I would be lost.  In the letter that Rob left me he encouraged me to draw close to God because now he is with God and the closer I am to God the closer I will feel to him.

I realize that I haven't done much blogging about what happened leading up to the funeral and so I wanted to share this one story.  The day I got the call that I could come and pick up Rob's urn was a tough day.  I had 2 friends offer to pick it up for me but I knew that I needed to do it myself.  Amy drove me there and came in with me.  When the funeral director brought it to me my first thought was how beautiful the box looked.  Inscribed on it I had chosen
"Rob Scott, Man of God. January 24th,1983-January 4th, 2016."
Seeing it made me cry and even typing this now makes me cry, but I know that it is exactly how Rob would want to be remembered.  We left the funeral home with Rob in my hands and got in Amy's car.  The song that was playing was " I Can Only Imagine" by Mercy Me.  The song talks about what it will be like when we get to heaven but it is something so beyond our comprehension that all we can do is imagine what it is like.  To sit there in the car with Rob's ashes knowing that he is no longer here but praising Jesus in heaven was so comforting.  I had a good cry in the car for Isaac and I and everyone left behind, but what a gift to be reminded what an amazing place Rob is in.

Since the funeral we have been just trying to figure out our new normal.  Isaac has been regularly going to school and his teacher and the staff at the school have been an amazing support to him.  It is going to be a long time until we know what life is going to look like for us but I am just trying to make sure that Isaac feels loved and safe and to remind him each day how much his Daddy loves him.  For over a year and a half Isaac prayed every night asking God is make his Daddy all better and now his prayer is that God would make sure Daddy is having a good time in heaven.  The hardest time for me is after Isaac is in bed and I am alone.  This is the time when Rob and I would hang out and get some quality time together.  I have been surrounded by family and friends but have also had a few nights alone and this is something that is going to take a long time to get used to.  Keeping busy during the day is ok but I miss Rob so much in the evening and going to bed alone is tough.

Many of you have been asking about the trust fund and how to make a contribution.  We wanted to make sure it was set up properly and securely and unfortunately this means it has taken much longer to set up then we had hoped.  Once we are able to get it set up your cheques will be cashed and I will post on the blog how contributions can be made for those who have been asking.  Thank you so much for helping  our family out in this way.  I have explained to Isaac that since Daddy isn't here to work hard and help pay for things like camp, sports and university that people are wanting to help him out and even as a kid he can appreciate the generosity.

Right now there are lots of major decisions that have to be made and paper work that needs filled out and it can all feel very overwhelming.   I also feel like we need lots of prayer so here are a bunch of specifics you can pray for.
-that Isaac would feel safe and loved and be open with his feelings
-that I would feel God's presence especially when I am lonely and missing Rob
-for God's peace, strength, and hope each day
-for my family and Rob's family as they mourn Rob
-that life insurance and other payments would be processed quickly without problems
-that I would have wisdom with decisions that need to be made, especially since I am not able to talk things over with Rob

Thank you for all the prayers, love and support.  Our situation is so hard but we have an incredible group of people around us and we are so thankful for each of you.
Love Karen

Tuesday 12 January 2016

Tributes to Rob and link to funeral

For those who missed the funeral you are able to watch the whole thing by following the link below.  Everyone I speak to tell me that they were blessed on Friday and felt it was as good as a funeral could be.  I know Rob would have loved it and been proud that he was honoured and spoken of as a man of God.  
http://livestream.com/accounts/16817211/events/4665688/videos/108814092

My words at the funeral.

Rob had many roles and was important to many people, He was a husband, a dad, a son, a brother, a friend, a teammate, a teacher, a mentor, and so many other things.  For the last 10 years he has been my best friend and soulmate.  I am truly a better person because of Rob.  He was the most gentle, caring soul I know and I am heartbroken but also so happy that Rob is in heaven and is no longer in pain.  

Rob and I met through youth for christ and knew very quickly we were the perfect match for each other.  I always wanted someone to come and sweep me off my feet and treat me like a princess and Rob truly did that for me.  Rob left a beautiful letter for me and it reminded what an incredible man of God he was and the amazing example he has set for our son.

Isaac will surely grow up hearing about his dad’s love for the Lord but more than that I will make sure that Isaac knows how deeply Rob wanted him to know the Lord.  Rob adored his son and was most sad to miss all of the important events in Isaac’s life.  I know that as a mother I can never filled the void that Rob has left but I believe that my Jesus has a plan and I am choosing to trust him.

Throughout Rob’s entire battle with cancer he still never questioned why it was him but rather found it an honour to suffer like Jesus did.  I know that if there is one thing he would have wanted today it would be for everyone here to know how much they are loved by Jesus.  Rob lived a life loving Jesus even though it did not promise the easy road.  He deeply desired to  live a life that was pleasing to God. 

Over the last year we have be able to make some amazing memories with our little family and I am beyond grateful for that.  Our trip to BC in June was by far the highlight and will be a trip Isaac and I will always talk about.  Another highlight for me was going to the Grey Cup with Rob.  He was so excited to be there and we were able to have such a great time.  I love taking pictures and has thousands of them from the last 10 years.  I am sure Isaac and I will spend hours together reminiscing and talking about our times with Rob.


I told Rob every chance I got how much I loved him and I know he felt the same.  Even though he is no longer physically with me we are connected so deeply that he will always be here with me.  I miss you already Rob, and I love you to the moon and back and can’t wait to be together again in heaven one day.

Katherina's tribute to Rob.

My name is Katherina Caby and I am Rob’s younger and only sister.
Robert William Scott was born on January 24th 1983 and was one of the last babies born at Concordia Hospital. Rob came into the world with his mother singing Jesus loves me, and shortly after he took his final breath on Monday, was also held by his mother singing Jesus loves me.
He was known to all as Robbie, and would be the center of the universe for Mom, Dad, Grandma, Grandpa, Nana, Papa, and Aunty Sarah. That is, until I was born two and half years later. Whereas Robbie cried lots as a baby, I slept peacefully. Mom and Dad figured they finally got it right and they had the perfect family they were praying for; a boy and a girl, in that order.  
Summers with Robbie always included staying at our trailer at Stonewall Quarry Park. We started camping there the summer I was in Mom’s belly, and continued all the way until we were adults. Robbie would pack up his ropes and toy hunting knives (he started his knife collection very early) and head out adventuring with his best bud Danny and some other friends. Little sisters were only sometimes allowed to tag along.
Robbie attended Lord Wolsely and John Henderson Junior High. Then he went on to Kildonan East and the University of Manitoba. At school Robbie quickly made new friends. He was easy to like (especially by some of my girlfriends). He was compassionate by nature and was quick to stand up against bullies, to be a defender and a buddy to kids who had few friends. Robbie was also really good at school and achieved high grades, which I then had to follow in his footsteps.
Robbie was a competitive guy. Sports was a huge part of Robbie’s childhood. He started like most kids by playing soccer. He had a massive, soaring kick that soon put an end to backyard practises because more time was spent in our neighbours’ yards retrieving the ball than actually playing.
Rob would go on to wrestle with Olympian Bob Molle, be on the track and field team, spend all nighters playing video games with friends, play competitive darts with Dad for over 10 years, and then with Tony. In fact he would go away with Tony on Valentine’s day weekends for dart tournaments, leaving Karen with Mom and I and no other option than to go on a shopping trip to the States. More recently he discovered discgolf which would soon become his passion. As a kid, Rob taught me how to throw a football; as a teenager, how to lift weights; and as an adult how to play discgolf.
Somewhere between soccer and darts, Rob’s focus changed to what he called the greatest sport known to man: Football. Rob always played running back, the powerful fullback. He played and coached for years with the East Side Eagles. Rob developed his strength, determination, perseverance and leadership abilities on the football field. Always showing up, always doing his best, always the team player, and always keeping his legs pumping to keep driving forward. These are lessons Rob used his whole life until the day he was called off the field, his final whistle blown, and he could rest in his heavenly home.
As a young boy around Isaac’s age, Robbie prayed with Mom to accept Jesus into his life. That day, Robbie said (as written in his baby book): I can see my arm reaching out and opening up a door and Jesus coming inside. When he does, I’m going to slam that door shut and lock it so he can’t get out!
So many people influenced Rob’s life journey with Jesus, starting with Mom. He was also mentored and guided by many at Talbot Mission, Rowandale, AWANA, youth group, Camp Nutimik, and Youth for Christ. He was baptised at Birds Hill Park in 2004.
As Rob volunteered at Samson’s Gym and then started working at YFC, he was allowing himself to be transformed by Jesus, into the man of God we knew him to be as an adult. A man that Karen would eventually meet and fall for.
As Rob and I were born two years apart, we were sometimes in the same youth group and I got to be that annoying little sister around my teenage brother. We did grow up though and became friends; especially when we both met our spouses around the same time in 2005. After meeting Karen at a YFC conference, all of a sudden our conversations became a lot more interesting! Right from the beginning, Rob just loved Karen’s smile, personality and faith. I remember sitting in the basement of our parent’s home, asking each other advice on the special person we had both just met, that both happened to be thousands of miles away, as we shared the experience of long distance relationships. Rob smiled whenever Karen would call; and the same was true right to the day he died, Karen walked in the room with her ‘Hi babe’ and Rob’s whole face brightened up.
After a surprise proposal in December 2005, Rob and Karen were married in July 2006. Rob became a beloved member of the Farquharson family, and Karen a cherished member of the Scott family.
Rob was an amazing father. From the moment he was born, Rob was so proud of Isaac. I personally learnt a lot for my own family from watching his interactions with his son and his vision for family.
As a younger sister, sometimes it felt like Rob was always one step ahead of me: going to university, getting married, buying a house, having a child... At one family dinner a few years ago, Dad mentioned that it was like I was walking in my brother’s footsteps, and I responded that it would be an honour to do so.
Rob was always a good teacher. He may never have been able to attain his goal of becoming a high school teacher, however he shared his passion for teaching youth through his work with YFC, as an educational assistant, as a coach, in various volunteer roles, and especially as a father to Isaac.
Rob worked hard to provide for his family, sometimes working several jobs and studying at the same time, such as when he was a custodian at Rowandale.
I will always remember when Rob called me to say that he was diagnosed with cancer two years ago. He’s the one who comforted me. Through several surgeries and seemingly unending treatments, Rob stayed strong. Even as his body failed him, his faith and outlook on life remained an anchor for him, and for others. Rob and Karen’s shared faith and their willingness to share it so publicly through the blog has allowed his journey to be an inspiration to thousands. Last summer, Rob, Karen and Isaac were able to take an incredible trip to B.C and Alberta, and somehow, that seemed to be a climax of the cancer journey.
On December 5th, Rob was able to reconnect with friends, family, colleagues, team mates, church members, and so many others at the celebration in his honour.
Rob’s last days were peaceful; spent with Karen, Isaac, our parents, and his closest family and friends.
The night before Rob passed away, Joël and I took our one year old son Jonathan to see Uncle Rob. Jonathan has been learning how to blow kisses. Rob called for Jonathan by name and then they blew each other kisses. It was a very special moment.
So now, I raise my hand to my mouth and I, too, blow you kisses, Rob.

Aaron's tribute to Rob.

For those of you that do not know me, my name is Aaron Pauls and Rob and I had been friends for over 25 years. I have many awesome memories of Rob which will give you a glimpse of the outstanding friend and man of God that Rob was, some of which I would like to share with you today.

I was first introduced to Rob in early elementary school when my family and his family started attending Rowandale Baptist Church around the same time. Growing up in those early years we attended Awana and Sunday school together and spent time in the summer at Camp Nutimik. From an early age we were able to exercise our very competitive spirits by racing around the circle at weekly Awana events. Eventually we graduated from elementary school and entered an amazing youth group program at Rowandale. Competitive juices kept flowing as we would often play touch football after church with the boys or even for youth group events. As I spent the past couple weeks reminiscing and thinking back, it was very hard to remember specific memories from the earlier years. I realized that the reason for this was that the two of us weren’t that close until high school.

Up until then Rob and I had never attended school together. What you have to understand is that I was extremely shy and scared about attending a high school without knowing many kids. I remember Rob being so caring and considerate looking out for me, introducing me to his friends and spending significant time with me. Our relationship really started to take off and we ended up spending almost every lunch hour during those 3 years at Rob’s house, close by the school eating lunch and watching sports centre. During the flood in Winnipeg in 1997 our church had the pleasure of hosting some Canadian forces that were sandbagging in the area. After their stay at our church they ended up leaving a parting gift of cases of their leftover army rations. Somehow a number of leftover cases ended up in our family’s barn and so we started eating them on a regular basis (yes if you do the math this was now two years later – but everything was freeze dried and still tasted pretty fabulous – at least for two starving high school boys). We loved opening these packages of various meals, and chasing them down with some banana – instant coffee - vanilla ice cream milkshakes. In fact, Rob’s mom told me last week that at Christmas this year she made some milkshakes and Rob made a point of saying “these are not like the milkshakes that Aaron and I made”. Now whether this was good or bad, I guess I’ll never know.

After high school we drifted apart a little as he and I took different routes at University, him pursuing engineering and me entering commerce. That being said we still stayed friends, attending church and a College and Career group at Rowandale. At some point God pushed Rob in a different direction after he started volunteering at Youth for Christ. It was not long before he started working at Youth for Christ as an employee, first helping run the gym but eventually starting a flag football program. When he started that program, he asked me along with 3 other fine men to volunteer running it. I of course agreed and I must say that it was such a blast to play football with him, expend some serious competitiveness (of course only when we ended up being matched up one on one) while sharing our love for Jesus with some kids that were from challenging backgrounds. It was so awesome to see Rob’s love and passion for Jesus and how he shared it with such ease every week with the kids during the “God talk”. It was easy to see that he would have a lasting impact on some of these boys.

Somewhere during those University and Youth for Christ days Rob and I both grew up and got married. This started a slew of bachelor parties that were spent in God’s creation on some remote canoe routes through the Whiteshell and Nopiming with a number of really awesome young men, many of which are here today. I distinctly remember us coming up with the idea to try and find one of the biggest boulders perched on some Canadian shield where we could push it into the water and get the biggest splash possible on video. Well, what I can tell you is that with each canoe trip the boulders got bigger. On one of the trips we ended up picking the impossible one that took several hours to get off the cliff. What I remember most about that one was not being able to do it without Rob’s seriously big “Mac Truck” legs. He got in behind that bolder and pushed like you would not believe with his unbelievable strength and we ended up getting it going and into the water. Pretty much swamped our canoes at the edge of the lake.

After we were both married our friendship had the benefit of two amazing women, my wife Laura and of course Karen. Between the four of us we quickly got into playing board games. We would get together with Rob and Karen on almost a weekly basis playing board games into the early hours of the morning. This again would continue Rob and my competitiveness to the point where we had to make a new rule that all feelings got sealed up in the game box as the night ended. This new rule had to be made after an intense night of Killer Bunnies where Rob and I feverishly disagreed on the interpretation of a card that ended up having a significant impact on the ending of the game. That night I called Rob after they had left and had to apologize for our heated disagreement. What I really loved about our game nights was the ability to chat and grow our relationship with each other.

Around this time in our lives Laura and I were blessed with our first two boys and it was amazing how Rob became an instant uncle to them. He was so loving and the boys instantly attached to Uncle Rob and it was easy to see that he was going to be an awesome dad to his eventual son Isaac.


Another memory that I will always cherish is the countless rounds of Disc Golf Rob and I played together. Rob ended up sharing his love for the sport with a lot of other people, but it all started with Karen and Laura starting a jewelry “business”. Rob and I obviously eventually got bored listening to the endless conversations of the new beads and styles of jewelry that were out and so we started playing disc golf on the PlayStation at our house, or on the Wii at his house. What we didn’t know was that the sport existed in real life. But once we found out we picked up the sport together in a hurry. We always said that it was so fun to be outside enjoying God’s creation, enjoying conversation while being fiercely competitive together. The other memory I had about disc golf is how Rob was always so inclusive, being ok with my older two boys coming along even if it took longer. Yet he would spend the time encouraging them how to throw better.

All these memories of our relationship, the friendship we had built, first the two of us, but eventually with our families is awesome and I will cherish them forever. But I what I will really remember about Rob is how he lived out his faith and the servant of God that he was. In hindsight, God called him away from a financially lucrative engineering career to serve God with his talents at Youth for Christ and eventually other areas of his life for the relatively short amount of time he had left here on earth. What we should take away from this is that he was listening to God and was in tune with Him ready to follow his calling. He will forever be an example to me and a reminder of how we should be living our life here on earth. While he was suffering so much, his focus was always ensuring that everyone he was in contact with would know how important his relationship with Jesus was and that he was 100% confident in his relationship in Him. He had no shame in his illness and had no shame to tell those that would listen about his walk with Jesus.

In closing I want to leave you with some words from Stephen Carleton, our youth pastor growing up: Rob journeyed through life as a child, as boy, as a young man, as mentor, as a friend, a father, as a husband and as a man of God. He rose to the challenges he faced. He shared his journey of life with so many. His strength, his fear, his love of God will always be here in our lives. Rob will be living forever on every face and in every heart he has touched. I’m gonna miss him.

Stewart's (my dad) tribute to Rob.

Someone once asked the question, “Where is God when it hurts?”
The answer has eluded many wise people but I would suggest that He is closer than you may think.
Consider Rob,     a strong young man in the prime of life     who was diagnosed with cancer.
Since his health took a downturn, he did not waiver in his faith.     He has not complained although he had reason to, always looking on the bright side.     
  Rob had the opportunity to speak to a crowd of his friends at Rowandale church a few weeks ago and he spoke of his future home in heaven. It is now his present home.

Rob has always been kind,    gentle,     and had a heart for people as shown in their work at Youth for Christ,      trustworthy.      Always positive, the wish of Karen and his hearts were long happy lives together
Where is God?         God is in Rob.
Consider Karen,     a strong woman holding up in the face of difficulty and hardship.
She is being the example that Isaac needs.
 She writes her blog so that we can follow alongside in support and others can see a testament of their faith and their love for each other.
Where is God?       God is in Karen.
Consider the dear friends at Rowandale who surrounded Rob & Karen with love over the past years.       Their generosity has been overwhelming,    the meals provided,     financial support,     time given,     personal sacrifices to a young family who are loved,     given over almost 2 years,     never wavering or letting up, such a beautiful testimony to the faithfulness of God displayed in his redeemed people.
Where is God?         God is in his people.
Karen and Rob have friends who they have known for many years,      even since childhood.         These friendships are precious and have shown immeasurable support for them both.
Where is God?        God is in their friends.
God’s love can be seen through us.
So          Where is God?
God is in us.


My prayer and I know it was Rob's prayer is that you are blessed by these words and that if you don't know Jesus that you are drawn into a relationship with him so that no matter what life throws at you that you can have to peace that Rob had.  Even through the tough times and when we don't understand the purpose of what is happening God is still good.  
Love Karen